Workplace Bullying: Understanding and Dealing with the Problem
Workplace bullying is a silent productivity killer. It chips away at confidence, breeds mistrust, damages team culture, and causes employees to disengage—or worse, leave. Yet it remains one of the least discussed issues in professional environments. While occasional disagreements are inevitable in any workplace, bullying is deliberate, sustained, and harmful.
This in-depth guide is designed to help you understand what workplace bullying looks like, how it affects people and organizations, and how to deal with it effectively. Whether you’re a target, manager, witness, or HR professional, the information here will help you take informed, empathetic, and confident action.
What Is Workplace Bullying?
Workplace bullying is repeated, inappropriate behavior that targets an individual or group and undermines their dignity, confidence, or safety. It often stems from an abuse of power—whether positional, relational, or cultural.
Key Characteristics:
- Repetitive or sustained behavior
- Intentional or reckless harm
- Creates a power imbalance
- Emotional, psychological, or professional impact
Example: An employee constantly finds their ideas dismissed in meetings, is deliberately excluded from important emails, and is mocked in private chats—all by the same manager or team member. This isn’t just tough feedback—it’s bullying.
Common Types of Workplace Bullying
- Verbal Bullying: Insults, sarcasm, yelling, or public humiliation
- Social Exclusion: Being left out of meetings, events, or decision-making processes
- Work Sabotage: Withholding information, setting someone up to fail, or undermining credibility
- Micromanagement: Excessive control, criticism, or surveillance of someone’s work
- Cyberbullying: Derogatory emails, messages, or posts through digital platforms
Real-life Story: Monica, a high-performing team member, was gradually assigned fewer tasks, excluded from team calls, and talked about behind her back. Eventually, she left the company—taking her expertise and energy with her.
The Difference Between Bullying and Other Workplace Conflicts
Not all conflict is bullying. Disagreements and difficult conversations are part of a healthy, diverse workplace. Bullying is different because it involves:
- A pattern of behavior—not a one-off incident
- Intent to harm, intimidate, or control
- A power imbalance that makes resolution hard without intervention
Who Gets Targeted—and Why?
Workplace bullying can happen to anyone, but some people are more at risk:
- New hires
- High performers seen as “threats”
- Introverts or quiet personalities
- Women and minorities in male-dominated industries
- Employees who don’t “fit in” with office culture
Insight: Bullies often target competence, not weakness. Their goal is to eliminate perceived threats.
Impact of Workplace Bullying
On Individuals:
- Anxiety, depression, burnout
- Reduced job performance
- Physical illness (headaches, sleep issues)
- Loss of self-esteem or career confidence
On Teams and Companies:
- Lower morale and productivity
- Increased absenteeism and turnover
- Damaged employer reputation
- Higher HR and legal costs
According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, 19% of U.S. employees directly experience bullying, and 61% of bullies are bosses or people in authority.
Recognizing the Signs
You may be experiencing workplace bullying if:
- You’re regularly humiliated or insulted
- You’re excluded from communication loops or meetings
- You’re blamed for things outside your control
- Your workload is unreasonable or inconsistent
- You feel anxious or fearful about interacting with certain individuals
What To Do If You’re Being Bullied
1. Document Everything
Keep a journal of incidents—dates, times, witnesses, and evidence (emails, messages).
2. Reach Out for Support
Confide in a colleague, mentor, or counselor. You’re not alone.
3. Speak Up (If Safe)
If possible, address the bully directly:
“I’d appreciate if you could address me respectfully in meetings.”
4. Escalate Internally
Report to HR or a supervisor. Use your documentation to support your case.
5. Know Your Rights
Bullying that targets protected traits (race, gender, age, etc.) may qualify as workplace harassment and be legally actionable.
6. Consider Professional Help
Therapists or legal counsel can guide you through recovery or resolution.
What Managers and HR Can Do
- Create Clear Anti-Bullying Policies
- Define bullying and outline consequences
- Include examples and reporting pathways
- Foster a Speak-Up Culture
- Encourage respectful feedback and dialogue
- Protect whistleblowers from retaliation
- Act Quickly on Complaints
- Investigate fairly, confidentially, and promptly
- Train Leaders and Teams
- Provide regular workshops on respectful communication and conflict resolution
- Model Respect from the Top
- Leadership sets the cultural tone—walk the talk
Preventing Workplace Bullying Before It Starts
- Promote inclusive leadership
- Celebrate collaboration, not competition
- Address incivility early (eye-rolling, jokes at others’ expense)
- Regularly check in with employees about culture and climate
Tip: Prevention is always more effective (and cheaper) than crisis response.
Legal and Ethical Considerations
Laws vary by country and state. Some places have specific anti-bullying legislation; others cover it under harassment, health, or safety laws.
- In Australia, “workplace bullying” is covered under the Fair Work Act
- In the UK, it may be addressed under harassment provisions
- In the U.S., bullying isn’t always illegal—but can fall under hostile work environment law if it’s tied to discrimination
Consult legal experts for guidance specific to your jurisdiction.
Workplace Bullying in Remote and Hybrid Settings
Bullying doesn’t disappear online—it just adapts:
- Excluding people from Zoom meetings
- Ignoring emails
- Using sarcasm or passive-aggression in chats
- Over-monitoring remote workers unfairly
Prevention tips:
- Use inclusive virtual meeting etiquette
- Keep all communication professional and constructive
- Create digital channels for anonymous feedback or support
A Note to Bystanders
Silence supports bullies. If you see bullying:
- Speak up: “That’s not okay.”
- Support the target: “Are you alright?”
- Report if needed. Solidarity can change outcomes.
Courage is contagious. Be the voice that helps others speak up.
Conclusion: A Culture of Respect Starts with Awareness
Workplace bullying isn’t a “personality clash” or a rite of passage—it’s abuse, and it causes real harm. But with awareness, policies, and courage, it can be confronted and prevented.
If you’re being bullied, know this: you are not weak, and you are not alone. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
If you’re leading a team or supporting an organization, start today by creating space for voices, safety for truth, and consequences for cruelty.
Because everyone deserves to do their best work in an environment free from fear.
David Alssema is a Body Language Expert and Motivational Speaker. As a performer in the personal development industry in Australia he has introduced and created new ways to inspire, motivate and develop individuals.
David Alssema started his training career with companies such as Telstra and Optus Communications, and then developed Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) within workplace training as principal of Paramount Training & Development.
As an author/media consultant on body language and professional development David has influenced workplaces across Australia. He contributes to Media such as The West Australian, ABC Radio, Australian Magazines and other Australia Media Sources.