Becoming more assertive at work
Becoming More Assertive At Work
Balance is the foundation of assertiveness. This requires you to be open about your needs and desires while also considering the rights, needs, and wants of others. When you are assertive you can use this to your advantage and get your point across clearly, fairly, and with empathy.
The Benefits of Being Assertive
Being assertive can have many benefits. It can help you become more confident in yourself and your abilities to offer value.
You can also benefit from assertiveness in other areas of your personal and professional life. In general, assertive people:
- Great managers are easy to find. They are able to get things done by treating others with respect and fairness. They are valued and respected by people, making them leaders people want to work for.
- You can negotiate “win-win” agreements. They can quickly recognise the value in their opponent’s position, and they can find common ground quickly.
- They are more problem-solvers and better thinkers. They feel empowered to solve any problem they face.
- They are less stressed and anxious. They feel confident and aren’t afraid to fail.
How to become more Assertive
Although it’s not easy to be assertive, it is possible. If your workplace or disposition is more passive- or aggressive-oriented than assertive, it’s possible to change.
1. Value Yourself and Your Rights
You can be more assertive if you have a better understanding of yourself and a strong belief that your intrinsic value and the value of your team and organisation are well-known.
Self-belief is the foundation of assertive behaviour and self-confidence. This will allow you to see that you are worthy of respect and dignity. It will also give you the confidence and strength to defend your rights and preserve your boundaries.
Self-confidence is an essential aspect of assertiveness. However, it’s important to ensure that it doesn’t become a feeling of self-importance. Your rights, thoughts and feelings are as important as anyone else’s. However, they don’t have to be more important than any other person’s.
2. Communicate your needs and wants confidently
You must ensure that you are able to achieve your potential.
- Do not wait for someone to see what you are looking for. It’s possible to wait forever. You might wait forever! Set goals to achieve your goals.
- Once you have done this, tell your boss or colleague what you need to accomplish these goals. Don’t be afraid to stand firm on your goals. Even if you don’t get what you want right now, you can ask the right person if you can resubmit your request within six months.
- You can make requests in a way that doesn’t compromise the needs of others. You want people to help and being aggressive or pushy is likely to make them reluctant to do so. This could even lead to a breakdown in your relationship.
3. Know your boundaries
Respecting and learning to accept your own boundaries is a key step in managing stress and frustration. These ingredients are what make stress and frustration worse. You need to be realistic about what you can expect from yourself, and accept your limitations. There is no way around it, even if deadlines are approaching.
Your direct communication is beneficial for everyone. Resentful or exhausted is not only miserable but it can also prevent you from performing your best.
4. Preparation and practice
Prepare for assertiveness at work. This can be done in the comfort of your journal therapy or close relationships. Think about what it would be like to communicate difficult information to your boss or coworker. The following questions should be asked: What’s my goal? What are you looking to communicate? What would you like me to say?
You can play it out in your head, imagining both the best scenario and the one that scares the most. Talk it out with someone you love and be open to role-playing. Describe what you want to communicate at work. If you don’t, you might find it difficult to communicate at work.
5. Learn the difference between aggressive and assertive
Many people suppress their voices because they believe speaking up means being rude, bossy, or pushy. You don’t have to be assertive to be a good person. It is just about respecting your thoughts, feelings and voice, as well as the opinions of others. While being kind and likable can be maintained, it is possible to communicate directly.
Communicating assertively does not mean that you should bully others who would prefer aggressive communication. Its goal is for the best possible outcome for you and your coworkers in your workplace. “I disagree with that” can be assertive and open-minded, which opens up the possibility of further discussion to reach a resolution.
6. Keep growing
You will feel more connected to your skills and knowledge the more you learn. Confidence comes from knowing your worth, what you have to offer the world, and being confident in yourself. Keep working hard to develop your career and recognise how your strengths and efforts can benefit your workplace.
Being assertive can help you gain respect from others. You can increase self-esteem, reduce anxiety, and stress by being assertive. A study on assertiveness found that students who received training in assertiveness experienced a significant decrease in anxiety.
You respect others when you use assertiveness. Mutual respect is a key component of any communication skill that helps you get your point across. You also respect yourself and are able to stand up for your rights. You still respect others, and you show that you are willing to work with them to solve a problem.