How to Be More Assertive at Work
Assertiveness What is it?
One skill can help you stand up to a bossy coworker, a demanding manager, or a difficult team. You can improve your self-esteem, and it can positively impact your happiness and your workplace performance. It’s assertiveness.
Assertiveness refers to a behaviour that allows one to voice their needs in a healthy and positive manner. Although assertiveness can be helpful in many social situations, there are also potential consequences for being too assertive. Although some people are more assertive than others, it is possible to become assertive quite easily.
Being assertive in the workplace is a crucial communication skill. It allows you to stand up for yourself while being respectful of others and is appropriate for the work environment. Being assertive means communicating your abilities, goals and skills confidently without being pushy. People who are assertive can advocate for their own interests and theirs. They aren’t asking for better treatment than others, they just want the respect they deserve. Assertive people know how to decline a request.
This article will discuss assertiveness and its benefits as well as ways to teach yourself how to be assertive at work.
To be more assertive, you must have a realistic and respectful view of your own value as a person. Many people have attribution issues and attribute their failures to their own internal flaws. Think about the contribution you make to your workplace. Try to silence any inner thoughts that want to examine your mistakes and shortcomings. These thoughts can cause shame and make it difficult to see the positive aspects of your work. You can take a balanced inventory of your work experience, noting both the positive things you have done and any areas you would like to improve.
It can be difficult to recognise assertive behaviour. Because assertiveness can be confused with aggression, it’s important to distinguish between them. It is important to clearly distinguish the different behaviour types.
Balance is the foundation of assertiveness. This requires you to be open about your needs and desires while also considering the rights, needs, and wants of others. When you are assertive you can use this to your advantage and get your point across clearly, fairly, and with empathy.
It’s difficult to communicate assertively when many people think they are doing it, but in reality, this is a problem. Don’t worry. It’s not difficult to project assertiveness. This is because you have to be able to balance being assertive and being pacifist. You communicate clearly and direct when you are assertive. There is no room for assumptions. Communicating your thoughts to someone will help them fully understand your position.
This is the opposite of passive. When you are insensitive to the feelings and needs of others, you can be aggressive. You’re focused on your needs alone and will pursue them regardless of the feelings of others. Aggressive behaviour is built on winning. Aggressive behaviour is based on winning. If you are aggressive, you will use power that is not in your best interest. Sometimes you may appear pushy, or even bullying. You will take what you want often without asking.
People who are aggressive don’t care about others. It is only what they want that matters and what must be done. They bully, especially passive people and literally violate other people’s rights. People who are aggressive react to situations by excluding others in a hostile, rude or obnoxious manner. Aggressiveness allows you to voice your opinion, but it also results in the creation of enemies and inability to accomplish things.
Passive Aggressive Behaviour
People who are passive-aggressive express their negative feelings in indirect ways, rather than through words. This could include putting in little effort or being late to work.
Here are some tips for your workplace
1. Outside the office, be more assertive. You may have difficulty voicing your opinion in meetings. You can speak up and be heard, even if you have a minor request. You may also find it easier to speak up when you return to work.
2. Note your thoughts. If you have a game plan, you will be less likely to freeze up in a meeting or one-on-one session with your annoying colleague.
3. Pay attention to your language. It’s the smallest words that can seriously hinder your assertiveness growth.
4. Be kind to yourself. It can be difficult to be assertive. When you are able to stand up for yourself, reward yourself by rewarding yourself.
5. Be clear about your boundaries and follow them. You don’t have to say it loudly if you are unable to say no. How do you do it? You can set boundaries that you will follow. You might say that you won’t help a colleague until you have finished your work. Perhaps you’ll actually take your lunch breaks, rather than balance your salad bowl with one hand while you respond to work emails. You can take a stand and not have to say it after people learn of your boundaries.
It’s a communication style that is diplomatic and based on mutual respect. As assertiveness shows respect for yourself, it means you are willing to speak up for your rights and your feelings. This shows that you are aware of the rights of others and are willing to work with them on resolving any conflicts.
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