Self-esteem refers to an individual’s perception of their worth and value, as a person. It is essentially the extent to which someone views themselves in a negative light. When self-esteem is high it means that one holds themselves in regard feeling valuable and optimistic. On the hand low self-esteem involves self-doubt a lack of confidence and feelings of inadequacy.
Several factors can impact an individual’s self-esteem.
1. Childhood experiences;
The feedback, support or criticism received from parents, teachers and peers during years can have lasting effects on how one perceives themselves.
Achievements and setbacks in aspects of life like academics, work or relationships can influence how someone values their worth.
3. Societal norms and standards.
Society’s ideals of beauty, success, intelligence etc. play a role in shaping one’s self-perception. For example, constant comparisons to standards portrayed by the media may contribute to self-esteem.
4. Physical. Appearance:
Concerns about well being or dissatisfaction with ones appearance can impact how someone feels about their value as a person.
5. Feedback from others;
The comments received from others along, with their treatment and opinions can. Weaken an individual’s sense of self-worth.
These various factors contribute to the nature of self-esteem.
Self-confidence plays a role, in aspects of our lives.
Individuals who have strong self-confidence generally have a more positive perspective on life exhibit resilience in the face of challenges and are less susceptible to mental health issues like depression and anxiety.
Those with levels of self-confidence are more likely to establish boundaries effectively communicate their needs and foster meaningful connections with others.
Decision making and problem solving.
Believing in ones worth and abilities can result in efficient decision making.
It’s important to understand that self-confidence is not about having an ego or considering oneself superior to others. Rather it involves recognising and valuing your worth. Healthy self-confidence is well balanced allowing you to acknowledge both your strengths and areas, for improvement without criticizing yourself or solely relying on achievements or the opinions of others.
Tips on Handling Self Esteem
Dealing with self esteem is a part of growth. Having a sense of self worth contributes to a perception of oneself which in turn enhances overall well being and resilience during difficult times. Here are some suggestions to foster and maintain a self esteem;
1. Positive Self talk;
Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. Reframe self critical thoughts into affirmations. Of thinking “I can’t accomplish this ” try saying, “I’ll give it my shot.”
2. Accepting Compliments;
Embrace the compliments people give you. Of dismissing them express gratitude. Internalize the praise.
3. Setting Realistic Expectations;
It’s alright not to be perfect. Acknowledge that everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
4. Avoiding Negative Comparisons.
Each person’s journey is unique. Comparing your life or achievements, with others can lead to feelings of inadequacy. Focus on your progress instead.
5. Practicing Self compassion;
Treat yourself with kindness and understanding just as you would treat a friend.
Learn to say no and prioritise your needs and emotions. It’s not selfish; it’s necessary, for your wellbeing.
7. Celebrating Achievements;
No matter how small they may appear take the time to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments. This boosts confidence and reinforces behaviours.
8. Maintaining Connections;
Surround yourself with friends and family who uplift you. Positive relationships can enhance your sense of self-worth.
9. Limit Exposure to Negativity.
Consider taking breaks from media distancing yourself from individuals or being mindful of the media you consume to avoid negative influences.
10. Engage in Activities You Enjoy;
Pursuing activities that ignite passion within you can provide a sense of purpose. Elevate your self-esteem.
David Alssema is a Body Language Expert and Motivational Speaker. As a performer in the personal development industry in Australia he has introduced and created new ways to inspire, motivate and develop individuals.
David Alssema started his training career with companies such as Telstra and Optus Communications, and then developed Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) within workplace training as principal of Paramount Training & Development.
As an author/media consultant on body language and professional development David has influenced workplaces across Australia. He contributes to Media such as The West Australian, ABC Radio, Australian Magazines and other Australia Media Sources.