Resilience in difficult times
Resilience in difficult times
The world seems to be in constant turmoil, with one crisis after another. A global pandemic has effected dramatic changes in our lives and economic uncertainty. There have also been a variety of natural disasters. There are personal traumas as well, including the death of a loved, declining health, unemployment and violent crime. This is a time of extraordinary struggle and upheaval for many.
There is no way to avoid suffering, adversity or distress in life. However, there are some ways to smoothen the rough waters and regain control. Resilience refers to the ability to deal with loss, change, trauma, and other unavoidable aspects of life. You can build resilience to better cope with life’s changes, deal with difficult times, and bounce back from tragedy and hardship.
It’s important to not view being more sensitive to emotional distress or having difficulty coping with hardship or adversity as a character flaw. Resilience doesn’t come naturally and can’t be fixed. It’s a lifelong process that takes effort and requires constant maintenance.
How to build resilience for difficult times
Although we all respond differently to stressful events, many people try to protect themselves by refusing to believe the truth. You can pretend that you don’t feel the stress of a crisis by denigrating that it is happening.
Although denial has its positive sides, it can help you to deal with trauma. However, it will only prolong your suffering. Denial can make it difficult to adjust to new circumstances and prevent you from taking action or seeking solutions. It will also hinder the healing process.
- Accept the situation
Look back at your past to accept change. Acceptance of your current situation can be helped by looking back at past experiences with dealing with uncertainty and change.
Concentrate on the things you can control. List all the things that you cannot control and allow yourself to forget about them. Instead, think about the actions you can take. You can’t control if the job you want is advertised or if an employer offers you a job. You can choose how much effort and time you spend looking for work. You may also have to give up control if your loved one is suffering from a serious illness. However, you can still provide as much emotional support as you can to your loved one.
- Accept your feelings
It is tempting to think that “putting on brave face” and ignoring difficult emotions is the best way to get through tough times. Unpleasing emotions are there, regardless of whether you acknowledge them. Avoiding your emotions from coming out will only increase your stress and make it harder to accept your new situation.
You’ll discover that even the most upsetting emotions will pass. The trauma from these difficult times will begin to fade and you will be able find a way forward.
- Grieve your losses
Often, the process of going through difficult times involves some form of loss. It doesn’t matter if you’re grieving the death of a family member, the loss or job, it is important to allow yourself to grieve. Only by acknowledging and grieving your losses, and then moving on with your life, can you heal.
Reach out to others
When you are going through difficult times, it can be helpful to connect with family and friends. This will help you reduce stress, improve your mood, and help you make sense of the chaos and change. You don’t have to face your problems alone. It is possible to draw strength from others and build resilience.
People you reach out to do not need to know the answers to your problems. They just need to listen without judgment. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, or how you use them. It is the human connection, eye contact, smiles, and hugs that make a difference in how you feel.
Invest in your self-care
It can be mentally and physically draining to go through difficult times. Being in a constant state of stress can cause serious health problems, affect your immune system, and increase your risk for heart attack and stroke. It can also lead to burnout, which is a state where you are exhausted from all aspects of your life.
Get better sleep. A lack of sleep can make it harder to overcome adversity. You can improve your daytime habits, relax before bed and take the time to unwind. There aren’t any specific foods that will help you weather difficult times and build resilience. It’s more important to have a healthy lifestyle. Consuming a lot of fast food and takeout can affect your mood and brain, as well as your ability to function properly. Healthy eating can help you focus and get the energy you need to face the challenges ahead.
Find meaning and purpose
It is easy to become overwhelmed by scary headlines and consumed by the current crisis. It doesn’t matter what your circumstances are, they don’t have to define who you are as a person. Your crisis is not you. You can maintain your identity by pursuing meaningful activities that give meaning and purpose to your life.
To be able to cope with adversity, and make it through difficult times, you must develop perseverance and endurance. Although tough times are not permanent, they can be overcome quickly. You must find ways to persevere and stay motivated as you navigate the darkest parts of life.
Be kind to your self. Everybody adjusts differently to changes and upheaval. Do not criticize your coping abilities or make excuses for any mistakes you make. Building resilience is a key part of self-compassion. So be gentle with yourself.
Resilience tips for difficult times
There is nothing that has the same health benefits of meeting face-to-face and connecting with someone who cares and understands. It’s sometimes difficult to visit friends or loved ones in person these days. You can reach out to other people via video chat, phone, or social media if you are separated by geographical, lockdown, travel restrictions, etc.
Do not withdraw during difficult times.
When you face challenges in your life, it is easy to retreat into your shell. Fear of being a burden on loved ones and friends or feeling too exhausted to reach out to others may be a reason why you might retreat into your shell. Even if you don’t feel like doing so, keep up with your social activities. Friends who consider you a burden won’t see you as such. They’re more likely not to view you as a burden and will be more happy that you trust them enough.
Avoid negative people.
Friends can be kind, compassionate and good listeners. Negative emotions are only what you need to make you feel more anxious, stressed or panicky. Avoid people who make you feel judged, criticise, or magnify your problems.
Increase your social networks
Although relationships are essential for mental health, resilience and getting through difficult times, many people feel they don’t have someone to turn to when they need it. There are many ways to make new friends and expand your support network. Reach out to others who may be lonely or isolated if you are aware.
Resilience refers to the ability to overcome adversity and use it to build strength and prosperity. Resilience does not necessarily mean you aren’t going to struggle, making mistakes or asking for help. People who are resilient keep going, even when things get difficult or exhausting. They learn from their mistakes and misfortunes and rely on others with trust and confidence.